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The new understanding of flattery  

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Chinese keep saying the honesty is one paragon of virtue for ages, they have been taught since they came to this world, following this moral to develop and form their own principle of behaviour.

Personally I think I am one example of honesty , never ever claim something which is not real, say what I think, do what I want to.  Based on this belief to upholding one natural pure, real beauty, despise and hate hidden agenda, such as hypocritical behaviour, people.

The reality is named as the stranger I was isolated from the group. When I was little girl , nobody call me to play together, if there was once I feel very happy , like princess  can be remembered;  When I was in school , always do everything alone, even I always be top student but I know I am not popular student; when I was in university I realised I always said something which was not welcomed; when I started my work, become one adult to make contribution to the society, I felt I always be hurt, screaming what’s wrong with me.

The road I walked with tears, thus I start to find out the reason. Eventually I am aware of the fault of innocent, lack of the ability to please people around me, which is the key of my trouble. Why I keep telling the clothes of my little friend is dirty and ugly, why I didn’t spent time to encourage  poor student to get high score, why I didn’t join the group even just stay with them to have  a laugh. Why I thought please people will make myself down, actually can make me safe in the team.

When the time pass by, I do realise the fault of honesty, and the price of isolation.  People who are kindly to me, advised why you don’t smile to others who you don’t really like, in that case you can protect yourself from trouble.  Why you didn’t put you head down just agree with them which you really don’t want to agree. Except from the result will not make difference between two answer, you will be supported and have a feeling of belonging, which is important to work in the team.  

In western, people always stressed on communication skill, which also is one of main criteria to be enrolled by your potential employer, such as how to get along with people, how to make conversation with different people, and so on. To think of before you say anything is always rewarding.

I am aware of the error of my thought. Be observant to anything happened around you, care for the people what they are thinking; try to make a bright day to others, which will make happy to yourself as well.

If you can, try to find answer to avoid from telling “no”; say something nice to make happy, do something pleasant to make friend, just remember you live in the group, should know how to please people. All of us need have friend in our life, otherwise you will lose safety in your team, lose your reputation of the nice person.

What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other, bring pleasant mood to people to make easy life to yourself.  ----if you agree with me, try to learn how to please people, you will find out how happy you are, How easy your life will be.

So next time if someone ask you how is my new dress,I spent more than 5000 to get with the help of  my friend.  Apart from the price and the process of obtainment, it really look awful, BUT  what you will say to your friend?

If you can please your boss you will be easy to get promotion and  pay rise, so why you should be mean not use your golden tongue

If you boss want coffee you just make before she ask for , so how she will think of you , if she want have news of the staff so you just report whatever she want it.

So everything will be easy  ---

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